Divorce has far-reaching effects on children that can impact their emotional well-being, social skills and their ability to focus in school. Parents can reduce some of the negative effects of their changing family dynamic when they put their children first.
Parents who agree to prioritize the needs of their children can facilitate growth, provide reassurance and reinforce resilience.
Best interests
Courts often assess the best interests of children to determine the most plausible custody arrangement. According to The Florida Senate, some of the conditions courts consider include the following:
- The mental and physical health of each child
- The emotional bond between each parent and child
- The former standard of living of each child
- The physical, emotional and psychological safety of each child
- The ability of either parent to provide a stable and safe home
Facilitating adaptation
Children thrive when they have an accurate idea of what to expect. The Today Parenting Team suggests that parents establish a consistent routine right away to make adaptation easier. Parents can coordinate with each other to identify logistical expectations that will work for both of them. They can also discuss ways to make custody transitions fluid and anticipated for their children to reduce feelings of anxiety and unease.
Perhaps the most important thing parents can do is to listen to their children and validate their concerns. Parents can also utilize therapy as a way to help their children learn effective coping mechanisms and other critical skills. Community events and other social opportunities can help children discover and maintain meaningful relationships where they can find additional comfort and support.
